Virtual Group Program

Limit Setting Mastery

Part of the REAL TOOLS FOR RIGHT NOW Course

I hear it from parents and partners all the time...

  • “I avoid confrontation at all costs!”
  • “I worry that other people think I’m a bad parent.”
  • “I spend way more time with my BPD child and my other kids resent me.”
  • “It’s so expensive and exhausting caring for my BPD child that there’s no time or money left for my own self-care!”
  • “I find myself resenting friends, family, and even strangers who have it so much easier.”
  • “I have a really hard time saying NO and sticking to it.”
  • “Sometimes I just want to get in the car and drive away from it all!”

Since you're on this page, I'm guessing you feel many of these things, too.

You want to understand why you’re loved one behaves the way they do—even though it’s harmful to themselves and others, reduce conflict, feel like you’re a player in your own story, and RECLAIM YOUR LIFE. 

There’s just one small problem…

Something is holding you back from getting your life back on track.

So, what is the thing holding YOU back?

Maybe it's...

  • You’ve spent so much money (that you didn’t have) trying other things that didn’t even work.
  • You’re so tired you don’t even know how you’ll find the time or energy to put in this program.
  •  You feel like your situation is so dire there is no way anyone could understand it let alone improve it.

Whatever it is, if you're like most of my clients, even though you WANT change... you just can't bring yourself to TAKE the first step.

Your life is so busy and so full of anticipation (when is the next outburst or incident coming?!) and you’re flat out exhausted just trying to get through the damn day.

Or maybe you find yourself numbing out and avoiding not only the bad stuff, but also the good stuff… you’ve gotten this far, you can hold on a little longer, right?

Before you know it, another day, week, or month has gone by and you still haven’t created any positive change in your relationship with your BPD loved one. Things still feel like they’re falling apart. 

This might be when you start feeling defeated and ashamed—like you’ve let yourself and your family down, like you don’t care enough, and maybe… maybe it really is hopeless.

I'm here to tell you that isn't true.

It’s not that you don’t care enough, or that changing the dynamic of your relationship with your child, partner, parent or friend is impossible.

It’s just the FEAR of taking a leap and trying just ONE more thing and trusting that it really will work this time.

And I get it. I've been there, and so have hundreds of my clients. But guess what? You don't have to stay invisible, living in fear and putting off having a healthy relationship.

In fact… what if you could say sayonara to your fear and move forward with the confidence that you can have a HEALTHY and ENJOYABLE relationship with your BPD loved one?

dark haired woman smiling in a greenhouse

Could you imagine how amazing it would feel to...

  • Consistently set and stick to your limits, all the while reducing conflict
  • See your loved one begin to acknowledge and respect boundaries
  • Have time and money to take care of yourself and nurture your own needs
  • Get your life back, including drastically reducing the conflict in your marriage or partnership
  • Feel HOPEFUL again

sound impossible?

It isn't! But here's what most parents, partners, children and friends of BPD loved ones don't know...

It’s not just about having more information. It isn’t even about having the right tools!

Because if you’re being really honest, how many books have you read and how many so-called professionals have you already worked with that didn’t impact your situation?

So if it’s not about information, tools, or another specialist, how DO you change things once and for all?

It starts with realizing that you can't do this alone, you need a support team and a community.

Think about it...

You’ve read a hundred books, Googled your loved one’s symptoms and behaviors thousands of times, and talked with your family physician dozens of times, if not more. But you’re still STUCK. 

But if you know how to APPLY the information and tools that you’ve acquired to YOUR UNIQUE SITUATION, with practice assignments, professional guidance, and feedback and support from a community of other parents going through the same stuff… then you begin to see REAL RESULTS!

And that's exactly why I created Limit Setting Mastery—and why it's different from anything you've already tried.

Before you read one more thing or try one more tactic… you have to gather your PEOPLE—the team that is going to support you and get you through to the next phase of your life. 

And that’s exactly what we’re going to do together.

program includes live coaching and digital workbook

Limit Setting Mastery

A step by step program to help parents or individuals with BPD loved ones to learn to set and stick to their limits and reclaim their independence.

Limit Setting Mastery isn’t your average program. With me as your guide, you’ll learn powerful tools and strategies based in Dialectical Behavior Therapy to help you navigate the tumultuous rapids of your relationship and your life.

Consider this your customized
relationship bootcamp.

We’re going to do the hard work (but in a loving and supported way!), so that you can remove the fears that have kept you stuck, start saying “no” and sticking to it, and seeing real and consistent change in your relationship with your BPD loved one and even your partner, your other family members, and your friends.

"Lisa is absolutely amazing. One of her best traits is her ability to help clients feel safe and comfortable, to experience and express all emotions and stay calm, understanding, and strong when needed. I feel I have complete trust with her and can tell her anything and not receive judgments. Lisa helps people regain their life again. She stands with you through the thick and the thin and is amazing at being there every step of the way. She is incredibly sympathetic and there to provide nonjudgmental support."
— Marek
"Since therapy can be so exhausting, in a lot of my other past experiences I would often dread going even if it was helpful. I do not feel this way about group because the mindfulness is often lighthearted, fun, and cathartic, and the group dynamic works to "take the spotlight" off of me so that I do not have to do the exhaustive work of processing the entire time. I learn from the stories of other people, and you do a good job of facilitating the group so people stay on topic and are open and respectful of others."
— Rachel

here's what's inside

Limit Setting Mastery

advanced level - 6 week program

Beginning Tuesday, October 20, 2020

MODULE ONE

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness: our rights as parents, partners and friends

Identify the areas in this relationship that are within and outside your control. Learn and practice how to know when your limits and your loved one’s limits are stretched too far, and how to return to a place of safety and confidence even when the environment is chaotic. Understand why timing is everything.

TUESDAY, OCT 20 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

MODULE TWO

Identifying and communicating non-negotiable limits that reflect your personal values

Limits are facts. We have a right to our limits. Learn how to say NO and stick to your limits. Explore how harnessing the power of body language, tone, and facial expressions will increases the power of your message. Get my one-sentence formula for communicating your limits in way that gets heard. 

TUESDAY, OCT 27 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

MODULE THREE

How to use these tools
in real life situations

Setting and maintaining your limits isn’t going to go smoothly at first. In fact, it will be quite messy the first time or two. We’ll cover how to prepare for bad things, and how to tolerate them with radical acceptance.

TUESDAY, NOV 3 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

MODULE FOUR

Learning to speak BPD Part 1: hearing things from your loved one’s perspective

Understand why your loved one’s brain is wired to seek confirmation of perceived danger, which inevitably leads to misunderstanding and difficult communication. Role play your own real life situations to fine tune your use of the skills we learned in Module Three.

TUESDAY, NOV 10 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

MODULE FIVE

Learning to speak BPD Part 2: Managing potentially dangerous situations  

Our loved one’s impulsivity can put us and/or them in dangerous situations that are often scary, humiliating, and sometimes devastating for everyone involved. Learn how to plan ahead to reduce your own reactivity and avoid making an already miserable situation worse. Use the principles of behavior change to make it less likely that a similar event will occur.

TUESDAY, NOV 17 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

MODULE SIX

You’ve set your limits, now it’s time to maintain them

Review each of the skillsets you’ve learned in the last five weeks and apply them directly to situations that are happening RIGHT NOW with YOUR loved one. Walk away with a customized users manual for preserving your personal limits so you can avoid resentment, worry less, and  improve confidence in your relationships with your BPD loved one. 

TUESDAY, NOV 24 @ 7P EDT
RECORDING AND DOWNLOADS AVAILABLE ONLINE WITH LIFETIME ACCESS

bonus #1

1:1 coaching session

$135 value

One 30-minute personal coaching session with me during our 6 weeks together to help you connect the dots and apply what you're learning to your own situation.

bonus #2

private facebook group

priceless

Join a community of your peers who can relate to what you're experiencing first-hand. Lean on your group for non-judgmental support and be inspired by their accomplishments and growth!

bonus #3

live group coaching

$270 value

Join me for two (2) live group coaching sessions. Bring your questions and concerns and/or listen to me coach your peers through their difficult situations with their BPD loved one.

bonus #4

limit setting e-guide

$97 value

A comprehensive digital guide with information, worksheets, practical exercises, and useful tools to take your limit setting mastery to the next level in your own life and current situation.

bonus #5

exclusive discount

$500+ value

Get an exclusive discount for the Real Tools for Right Now course, my biggest and most value-packed online program, launching early 2021!

so tell me...

Are you ready to finally heal your relationship and reclaim your life?

I truly believe that BPD is not a life sentence for misery, and that you can accomplish a HAPPY and HEALTHY relationship with the right guidance.

Yet so many parents, partners and children are too tired and beaten down that they never think to ask for help… from the right people, who understand exactly what they’re going through and know what actually works, and who offer non-judgmental support and community for you to lean on.

And that’s why so many families are trudging through, just trying to stay afloat, thinking they are just “unlucky” and this is the hand they were dealt. 

Your feelings of stress, overwhelm, anger, fear, and helplessness are symptoms of trying to do this all alone. 

Enroll now

You don’t need a degree in psychology to learn these tools and be able to communicate with your kids. Most parents and partners with support can do it! The key phrase being WITH SUPPORT.

Advanced Limit Setting Mastery

Stop feeling invisible.
Start feeling self-confident.
Reduce conflict.
RECLAIM YOUR LIFE.

Starts Tuesday, october 20 @ 7P EdT

Advanced PROGRAM

6-WEEK PROGRAM
$ 1400
  • 6x weekly 90-minute live group classes
  • 2x Facebook Live Coaching Sessions
  • Private Facebook Group
  • 1x 30-minute 1-1 coaching session
  • Downloadable workbook (even more tools!)
  • Peer support
Best Value

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How do I know Limit Setting Mastery will work for you? Because I've been exactly where you are right now.

Hi! I’m your teacher and coach, Lisa Bond. I help individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) or who are highly sensitive, and parents or loved ones of these individuals, with evidence-based tools—like dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)—to improve their relationships and their lives. 

If you’re wondering how I got qualified to help you and your family deal with these incredibly difficult topics and experiences, well…

It all started because my own child struggled with BPD from a young age. I tried literally everything and nothing worked. I made allllllll the mistakes. 

My training and experience as a registered psychiatric nurse, and the access that gave me to certified physicians, didn’t offer me any nuggets of wisdom either. 

I was exhausted, angry, ashamed, fearful, sad, and helpless. 

UNTIL… I found DBT. When I started learning and practicing dialectical behavior therapy, everything changed. Our entire family dynamic shifted. My child is now late 30s and lives a happy and independent life. 

After years of f@*%ing up in every way you can think of, I’ve not only found the tools and support systems to regain freedom and balance in my life, I’ve helped hundreds of my clients do it, too.

I know firsthand that with the right tools and support system, you can reduce conflict and find joy and balance again. I'm honored to share my method with you!

Are you ready to reclaim your life?

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