Quiz Results

BPD Traits


Extreme Concern That Behaviors Are Associated With BPD

The quiz questions, some of which originally appeared in Stop Walking On Egg Shells (Mason and Kreger, 1998) and on the McLean Screening Instrument for Borderline Personality DIsorder (MSI-BPD), are chosen to give you a more clear sense of whether or not someone in your life engages in behaviors that might be considered traits associated with Borderline Personality Disorder. It is not scientific or diagnostic in any way. It is intended to help you make sense of what is happening in your own life and decide if seeking further support is needed.

A score of 7 or above indicates the potential for increasingly dysfunctional or even life threatening behaviors. There is significant concern about the current behavior patterns and the potential for those patterns to become fixed over time. Additionally, there is concern related to the number of different behavior patterns this individual has to use to get their emotional needs met. If someone has had to resort to such behavior to maintain a sense of balance or safety it is reasonable to conclude their risk of “running out of gas” is high.

We cannot control other people and it’s entirely possible your loved one will refuse or even respond to such a suggestion with, “You’re the one who’s crazy! You need to be evaluated, not me.”

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An answer of Yes to any or all of questions 3 (Has this person intentionally cut or burned themself or engaged in any other form of intentional self harm?), 4 (Have they ever attempted suicide?), or 6 (Has the individual experienced more than one problem with impulsivity such as bingeing, unsafe sexual encounters, running away, drinking or drug use?) requires immediate consultation with a professional, regardless of the total score.

Why I created this quiz

Most currently as a coach, and previously as a psychiatric nurse, teacher, and mother, I have seen so many of you struggling to cope with friends, partners, and family members who have a diagnosis or BPD or who share some of the traits. One of the comments I frequently hear is, “I wish I knew what I know now and that there had been someone to help me when my child was younger” and, “I knew something wasn’t right but nobody took me seriously and often implied that my child’s behavior was caused by poor parenting.”

My mission is two-fold. First, to reduce stigma by providing accurate and up-to-date information to families and loved ones about BPD and its associated personality traits. And second, and equally important, to give you tools within a community format that can be used to facilitate decision making, communication, limit setting, self-care, and access to quality treatment.

If you are new to the BPD world or if you have been around awhile and find yourself second guessing yourself, I hope you will find the information here helpful and encouraging. Regardless of where you may be in this journey please remember that most people with BPD recover and the emotional investment of the family along with the hard work of the individual has a significant effect on a positive outcome.

PLEASE NOTE: This survey is NOT diagnostic of Borderline Personality Disorder or of any other mental illness and yet it provides a clear lens through which to view a pattern of behavior(s) that may be problematic if ignored. Disclosure & Terms

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